Bill Doherty on Marriage... Check out the new Doherty Relationship Institute pre-launch here!
The only thing that rivals parenting for sheer challenge in today’s world is marriage, which holds our fondest hopes and our worst fears about permanence of relationships in life. A core part of my mission is to restore a culture of hope about marriage by showing how couples can be intentional about their marriage and by promoting community and cultural support for marriage. We have to do marriage better for our sake and for our children.
I spell out these ideas for lay audiences in my book Take Back Your Marriage. Download chapter two of Take Back Your Marriage here. It talks about how the consumer culture impacts our married life. You can also download chapter seven of Take Back Your Marriage, dealing with the topic of unnecessary divorce.
These ideas are also the foundation of my community work for marriage in The Family Formation Project, where we work with urban unmarried couples who have a child and a desire to make their relationships work against great odds.
There are a lot of resources for couples beyond the world of therapy in the field of marriage education. Marriage education equips couples with the skills for making marriage work in today’s world, and also fosters the attitudes and values needed to counteract the me-first consumer approach to marriage (what’s in it for me?). Marriage education classes and activities also connect couples to one another and break down the isolation so many couples experience. For information about these resources, go to www.healthymarriageinfo.org and www.smartmarriages.com.
Marriage Counselors I Endorse
There is a values-neutral approach to marriage counseling that can be hazardous to your marriage and family. Find a "marriage friendly" therapists at the national marriage counseling directory I co-founded.
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Couples in crisis may want to look at the Retrouvaille program which has immediate assistance to couples on the brink.
AAMFT is the national organization for marriage and family therapists.